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Sunday, September 9, 2018

Body Shaming Strangers is Not OK

Recently, I overheard a woman talking about how she wanted to help people improve their health by telling them all about her diet and how it would help them overcome obesity. It apparently bothers her to see overweight people who aren't eating in a manner she deems healthy. She was saying that she wanted to just walk right on up to strangers and... I'm not even paraphrasing... ask them if they're tired of being fat. As though body-shaming strangers wasn't bad enough, when I saw this woman, it looked to me like she would be the type of person she was talking about approaching. 
Not unlike me, she was a work in progress. I'm guessing she's been on her wellness journey for quite a while and is apparently having success since she wants to spread the word. That's great for her! Way to go, random citizen! Also not unlike me, she was clearly still quite overweight. I couldn't help but wonder how she would feel if I walked up to her and announced that I could help her lose the extra weight she was carrying. 

I was so put off by her comments! OK, she seemingly had altruistic motives. But really? Calling out overweight people, assuming that they haven't tried to make positive changes in their lifestyles? What would she say to them? "Excuse me, but I can see that you're overweight and eating a corndog. You should try to lose weight by following my amazing diet plan! Do you have a few minutes for me to tell you about it?"


Body-shaming means pointing out someone else's physical features in a negative way to draw attention or cause humiliation. Any time you make a negative assumption about someone based solely on their physical appearance, you're body-shaming. Telling an overweight person they need to lose weight is body-shaming. (Telling an underweight person they need to gain weight is JUST as bad.) Assuming that, because someone is overweight, they are not taking care of themselves or making efforts to live a healthy lifestyle is arrogant.


If you want to share your success with the world, that's great! Talk about it. Post about it. Wear a shirt that says, "Ask me about my weight loss!" Reach out to the world by being your own billboard. 
Promoting yourself by singling out people and making them feel bad about how they look, is an extremely selfish and inconsiderate way to go about doing it. What is your intended outcome? Are you hoping to make a friend? Win a client? Or do you simply want to brag about your success to a total stranger while making them feel like they're less than? 

Hopefully, she will continue to just think about this and never actually act on it. Then again, maybe I hope she DOES act on it and someone puts her in her place for trying to make them feel bad about themselves. Or maybe I'll just continue on my journey and not worry about her. 

In case you were wondering, I'm down 25lbs thanks to my awesome plant-heavy keto diet! See? I bragged about my success, told you what I'm doing, and left the door open for you to inquire about it, if you're curious. I haven't said that you need to lose weight or cast aspersions of any kind on you. If you're looking to lose weight in a healthy, sustainable way, you can reach out to me and we'll chat about it. If you're just not feeling healthy and you want to feel better, you can reach out to me and we'll chat about it. 

I hope each and every one of you is feeling good about yourselves! I hope your body is healthy and strong and your mind is sharp and positive! Take care of YOU! If you need someone to help you on your journey, please reach out to me! 


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